Leadership for Life



The date was June 20, 1980. I was 14 years old and heavy into sports. I remember the buzz at the time was the Sugar Ray Leonard vs. Roberto Duran fight. My dad was a big fan of boxing and that fight was heavily promoted everywhere.
Roberto Duran grew up in Panama without the finer things in life, and resented this good clean cut all American Golden Child from the U.S.  Leonard wasn’t considered built but he was lightning fast.  Roberto was a fierce boxer that nobody could go toe to toe with.  He was focused on one thing, and that was to humiliate Leonard in the ring and Roberto let Leonard know it.  People would say that when you looked into Roberto Duran’s eyes, it was like looking into the eyes of the devil.
The human mind is the greatest computer on the planet. We program that computer every day with belief or doubt. As we find motivation, we develop what Vince Poscente (Author of  “The Ant and the Elephant”) calls “finding the elephant buzz”.  We fill ourselves with belief and it gives us the fuel to win.  On the other hand if we focus on our fears it fills us with doubt and we lose.  We should make fears our friend and not our master as Vince Poscente states, but that doesn’t always work the way we hope.

That fight rocked Leonard to the core.  He let Duran get into his head and fear became his master.  Duran’s intimidation and focus was effective and Leonard was off his game.  Sugar Ray Leonard was known to be a dancer in the ring.  He would duck, weave, and play with his apponants, but not this time.  He went toe to toe with Duran that day and it was a a slug match.  It was like watching a fast paced ping pong game, and by decision Duran had won.  The Golden Child of the U.S. was devastated, Leonard went into depression and considered retiring.  On the other hand Duran became the most popular guy in Panama.  Security couldn’t stop the mob from crowding his plane when he landed at the airport in Panama.  He had beaten the best, just as he said he would do, and now the world knew.
It didn’t take long before everyone was shouting for a rematch.  Everyone but Sugar Ray Leonard.  He had lost his confidence and contemplated retirement.  The more he thought about it the more he knew he didn’t want to go out like that.  He noticed, in photos, Duran was getting fat and comfortable as a celebrity in Panama and Leonard was starting to get his “elephant buzz” back.  The rematch was on!  This time Leonard stayed focused on his game and his confidence grew.  Duran had lost his “elephant buzz” and was starting to get nervous.  The two fighters would fight their rematch at the Superdome in New Orleans that November 25th but this time the roles looked like they were reversed.

The day of the fight the two boxers climbed into the ring and it was written on their faces.  One had his “elephant buzz” back and the other one was going though the motions.  This time Leonard would dance all over that ring and every time Duran tried to get him in a corner, Leonard wouldn’t stay there.  He would hit and roll out.  It didn’t take Leonard long before he was back to his intimidation techniques and was teasing Duran.  Duran was feeling beat up and humiliated and his fear became his master.  He was physically and emotionally drained and wanted the pain to stop, and before the end of the eighth round Roberto Duran said those famous words that would rock the boxing world forever, “NO MAS”. It means NO MORE.  Everyone thought “did I hear that correctly?”  He didn’t win, he didn’t lose, and he didn’t even take a dive, HE JUST QUIT!  Some wondered if they should give Leonard credit for a win, but there was no question that Leonard beat him physically and mentally.

Duran had to go into hiding for a while and it took the Panamanian people about three years to forgive him.  Duran had embarrassed the people of Panama after they had built him up as the best in the world.

You have trained hard, you have your “elephant buzz”, you are on your game.  You have people in your corner rooting for you. Your dream is worth the fight. Even if your knees get weak, your nose gets bloody, keep your hands up and fight one more round.  Because the guy who fights one more round is never whipped.


The Blind Side

IMG_0182      Sometimes there can be some devestating blows that can originate from that mysterious place, that unknown territory that many refer to as our blind side.  We don’t know what we dont know. For those of us who would like to think that we have it all figured out and we’ve got all the bases covered, let’s set baseball aside and talk about another game….Football. In the 2013 NFL Draft, three out of the first four top picks were left tackles. A premier left tackle is a highly sought after asset on every roster. So much so, that they are generally the highest paid player after the quarterback. The left tackle’s job is to protect that quarterback because as that quarter back is staring down the field he is in a vulnerable position and needs somebody protecting his blind side. Games can’t be won with incompleted passes, lost yardage, or a sacked quarterback. The game of life is not much different.

Everyone has a blind side. Discovering what lurks there or what may be lacking there can mean the difference between victory and defeat in our relationships, that next job promotion, or any important endeavor we chose to take on.

Frequently, we are tackled by our own negative self-talk, baggage, and doubt and we are blind to the fact that our past is not our potential. Our potential exceeds our expectations. What we need is a means to draw out into the light the information needed to fill in the gaps. That 180 degree turn around can be found in little splashes of black ink on white pieces of paper that form words and are put into books. The Little bits of information that spark that life transformation can be found by reading. Make it a habit.

Another way to discover the unknown is by listening to audios because testimony is powerful and by hearing stories of others “aha” moments we may also find ours. When I listen, I like to think as if the speaker is my best friend trying to reveal a secret to me. The very best way to learn is to have these bits of information coming to us on an ongoing basis. Leadership subscriptions enable us to have these bits of life changing information spread out over time so we get an on going stream of books , CDs and seminars. Information taken in small pieces over time provide the best, most permanent results. The LIFE Leadership organization provides this life changing information and association.

Lastly, if we have the speed of trust with another person who is close to us they may hold the key to revealing things hidden there in those blind spots. A good mentor, like a good left tackle, is hard to find and valuable so when one is found cherish the time in that calendar. I want to make a shout out to Orrin and Laurie Woodward to say how much their time is appreciated and valued for revealing some of those blind spots in our lives and the vision they impart to us and the whole Life Leadership Organization. I want to share a different story about mentoring with you. My sister in law was one of the top real estate agents in the area a few years back. Her mentor charged $1000.00 a call and when the time came for the call, it was sometimes a short one. The mentor asked “Did you do what we agreed on last month?” If the answer was no then the call was over and the mentor replied.”The advice is still the same.” The next mentoring call was scheduled. My sister in law was hungry to be successful in her field so she was willing to do those things that stretched her and she trusted her mentor. This hunger and trust is what it will take for you and your mentor to not only tackle your blind spots, but also face the future and the unknown. I ran across a quote that said, ““Every age has its massive moral blind spots. We might not see them, but our children will.” – Bono, U2

Sometimes you may be the quarterback or somebody’s left tackle. Whatever you do…..Play like a champion today.

Make sure you and your teammates get to the big playoff competition next month in Fresno, CA, Milwaukee, WI, or Ottawa, ON(Canada). Power Player Top Gun competition winners will be recognized. Who will get that cup?

God Bless,

Debbie Spolar