The date was June 20, 1980. I was 14 years old and heavy into sports. I remember the buzz at the time was the Sugar Ray Leonard vs. Roberto Duran fight. My dad was a big fan of boxing and that fight was heavily promoted everywhere.
Roberto Duran grew up in Panama without the finer things in life, and resented this good clean cut all American Golden Child from the U.S. Leonard wasn’t considered built but he was lightning fast. Roberto was a fierce boxer that nobody could go toe to toe with. He was focused on one thing, and that was to humiliate Leonard in the ring and Roberto let Leonard know it. People would say that when you looked into Roberto Duran’s eyes, it was like looking into the eyes of the devil.
The human mind is the greatest computer on the planet. We program that computer every day with belief or doubt. As we find motivation, we develop what Vince Poscente (Author of “The Ant and the Elephant”) calls “finding the elephant buzz”. We fill ourselves with belief and it gives us the fuel to win. On the other hand if we focus on our fears it fills us with doubt and we lose. We should make fears our friend and not our master as Vince Poscente states, but that doesn’t always work the way we hope.
That fight rocked Leonard to the core. He let Duran get into his head and fear became his master. Duran’s intimidation and focus was effective and Leonard was off his game. Sugar Ray Leonard was known to be a dancer in the ring. He would duck, weave, and play with his apponants, but not this time. He went toe to toe with Duran that day and it was a a slug match. It was like watching a fast paced ping pong game, and by decision Duran had won. The Golden Child of the U.S. was devastated, Leonard went into depression and considered retiring. On the other hand Duran became the most popular guy in Panama. Security couldn’t stop the mob from crowding his plane when he landed at the airport in Panama. He had beaten the best, just as he said he would do, and now the world knew.
It didn’t take long before everyone was shouting for a rematch. Everyone but Sugar Ray Leonard. He had lost his confidence and contemplated retirement. The more he thought about it the more he knew he didn’t want to go out like that. He noticed, in photos, Duran was getting fat and comfortable as a celebrity in Panama and Leonard was starting to get his “elephant buzz” back. The rematch was on! This time Leonard stayed focused on his game and his confidence grew. Duran had lost his “elephant buzz” and was starting to get nervous. The two fighters would fight their rematch at the Superdome in New Orleans that November 25th but this time the roles looked like they were reversed.
The day of the fight the two boxers climbed into the ring and it was written on their faces. One had his “elephant buzz” back and the other one was going though the motions. This time Leonard would dance all over that ring and every time Duran tried to get him in a corner, Leonard wouldn’t stay there. He would hit and roll out. It didn’t take Leonard long before he was back to his intimidation techniques and was teasing Duran. Duran was feeling beat up and humiliated and his fear became his master. He was physically and emotionally drained and wanted the pain to stop, and before the end of the eighth round Roberto Duran said those famous words that would rock the boxing world forever, “NO MAS”. It means NO MORE. Everyone thought “did I hear that correctly?” He didn’t win, he didn’t lose, and he didn’t even take a dive, HE JUST QUIT! Some wondered if they should give Leonard credit for a win, but there was no question that Leonard beat him physically and mentally.
Duran had to go into hiding for a while and it took the Panamanian people about three years to forgive him. Duran had embarrassed the people of Panama after they had built him up as the best in the world.
You have trained hard, you have your “elephant buzz”, you are on your game. You have people in your corner rooting for you. Your dream is worth the fight. Even if your knees get weak, your nose gets bloody, keep your hands up and fight one more round. Because the guy who fights one more round is never whipped.
Sometimes there can be some devestating blows that can originate from that mysterious place, that unknown territory that many refer to as our blind side. We don’t know what we dont know. For those of us who would like to think that we have it all figured out and we’ve got all the bases covered, let’s set baseball aside and talk about another game….Football. In the 2013 NFL Draft, three out of the first four top picks were left tackles. A premier left tackle is a highly sought after asset on every roster. So much so, that they are generally the highest paid player after the quarterback. The left tackle’s job is to protect that quarterback because as that quarter back is staring down the field he is in a vulnerable position and needs somebody protecting his blind side. Games can’t be won with incompleted passes, lost yardage, or a sacked quarterback. The game of life is not much different.
Everyone has a blind side. Discovering what lurks there or what may be lacking there can mean the difference between victory and defeat in our relationships, that next job promotion, or any important endeavor we chose to take on.
Frequently, we are tackled by our own negative self-talk, baggage, and doubt and we are blind to the fact that our past is not our potential. Our potential exceeds our expectations. What we need is a means to draw out into the light the information needed to fill in the gaps. That 180 degree turn around can be found in little splashes of black ink on white pieces of paper that form words and are put into books. The Little bits of information that spark that life transformation can be found by reading. Make it a habit.
Another way to discover the unknown is by listening to audios because testimony is powerful and by hearing stories of others “aha” moments we may also find ours. When I listen, I like to think as if the speaker is my best friend trying to reveal a secret to me. The very best way to learn is to have these bits of information coming to us on an ongoing basis. Leadership subscriptions enable us to have these bits of life changing information spread out over time so we get an on going stream of books , CDs and seminars. Information taken in small pieces over time provide the best, most permanent results. The LIFE Leadership organization provides this life changing information and association.
Lastly, if we have the speed of trust with another person who is close to us they may hold the key to revealing things hidden there in those blind spots. A good mentor, like a good left tackle, is hard to find and valuable so when one is found cherish the time in that calendar. I want to make a shout out to Orrin and Laurie Woodward to say how much their time is appreciated and valued for revealing some of those blind spots in our lives and the vision they impart to us and the whole Life Leadership Organization. I want to share a different story about mentoring with you. My sister in law was one of the top real estate agents in the area a few years back. Her mentor charged $1000.00 a call and when the time came for the call, it was sometimes a short one. The mentor asked “Did you do what we agreed on last month?” If the answer was no then the call was over and the mentor replied.”The advice is still the same.” The next mentoring call was scheduled. My sister in law was hungry to be successful in her field so she was willing to do those things that stretched her and she trusted her mentor. This hunger and trust is what it will take for you and your mentor to not only tackle your blind spots, but also face the future and the unknown. I ran across a quote that said, ““Every age has its massive moral blind spots. We might not see them, but our children will.” – Bono, U2
Sometimes you may be the quarterback or somebody’s left tackle. Whatever you do…..Play like a champion today.
Make sure you and your teammates get to the big playoff competition next month in Fresno, CA, Milwaukee, WI, or Ottawa, ON(Canada). Power Player Top Gun competition winners will be recognized. Who will get that cup?
I recently saw this photo and couldn’t resist!
Mr. Entrepreneur has an idea.
Mr. Saver has the money.
Mr. Laborer has a job.
Mr. Entrepreneur has a dream to cure cancer. He feels with a few years of hard work and money to invest, he can fulfill his dream. Mr. Entrepreneur has no money, so he go’s to Mr. Saver. Mr. Saver loves Mr. Entrepreneur’s dream but also loves what he has saved and doesn’t want to lose it. Mr. Saver asks him if he has anything of value. Mr. Entrepreneur says his house is paid off. Mr. Saver says “Great! You sign your house over to me and if your idea doesn’t work I’ll get your house. Mr. Entrepreneur agrees to the terms. Mr. Entrepreneur spends countless nights falling asleep at his desk. Years have gone by and nearly all the money and finally he’s done it, a cure! Mr. Entrepreneur saves lives all over the world and creates tens of thousands of jobs. Society wants to recognize this achievement so every year in September we have something called Labor Day and celebrate the fact that Mr. Laborer gets a job.
Today’s society has been taught to punish the entrepreneurs and build up the fact that someone gets a job. Sam Walton is a great example of that. Some in our society want to criticize WalMart for having a handful of owners and around 1.4 million employees in the U.S. Sam Walton, like the Mr. Entrepreneur in the example, found a need and filled it and the people voted with their dollars his success. Some might say, “Building a giant retail company, is not on the same level as curing cancer”. We are not talking levels, we’re talking about finding a need, filling it, and creating a better quality of life for everyone and getting rewarded for taking the risk. This means that a single mother with four children can now walk into a WalMart and her $200 goes further. This is a good thing, this is a win/win for the entrepreneur and the customer. Mr. Entrepreneur found a need, filled it, got rewarded, and the customer received value.
At the start of this great country, most were business owners. We grew up on farms and we worked hard because we owned those farms. Today we are taught to count on an entrepreneur for a job and that business ownership is not something we need to pursue. Many never develop a strong desire to help make sure that the company they work for survives because they don’t own the company and after all it’s us against them. And if we don’t like the circumstances we can always vote new people into office to regulate that entrepreneur into giving us what is thought to be our fair share.
Sam Walton is to be congratulated not blamed for giving people a job. Blame should be given to an education system that enslaves a person into having victim mentality while thinking Mr. Entrepreneur is their enemy. If we change that type of thinking in our education system then we will empower more people to believe they can succeed.
LIFE LEADERSHIP is a new education system that helps people control their own destiny by changing the information they take in. I would like to thank LIFE LEADERSHIP along with all the other Mr. and Mrs. Entrepreneurs of this world for being part of the solution and not adding to the problem.
As we know, results come from our actions. Our actions come from our thinking and our thinking comes from information. We are being fed information every moment of every day and need to be careful of the information we take in.
About 20 years ago, I read a short story that helped me understand how people are convinced to believe things that have been proven untrue. Although the following fictional story was written almost 50 years ago by James Clavell, society is currently and has always been in danger of being indoctrinated with untruths.
Some hate the truth because they’ve been deceived and therefore think it’s not the truth, and some hate truth because they know it is.
Seek the truth and be not afraid!
I had the treat to hang out with my mentor Orrin Woodward and host Tony Cannuli on the Leadership Factory. It was a great conversation and learning experience. It is always an inspiring and a learning experience when I get the chance to get around this master community builder and leader. Check out the link below.
by Debbie Spolar
In this new year of 2013, we have a hope, an excitement,and an anticipation of and new plans for the future.
At our New Year’s Eve get together, at about five minutes til midnight, my husband said a wonderful prayer. In addition to his words of praise and thanksgiving, he asked God to supply us with courage and strength to do His will and to unite and strengthen our families. Within the last month or so, two of our children became engaged and there was a beautiful mix of families at this years ringing in. In addition to the celebration of the new year, we are so full of joy to have two new families making two new beginnings together.
Pope John Paul II said “The future of the world and of the Church passes through the family.” At the center of the family is marriage. As two people enter into that union there is excitement and anticipation for the future. I have asked several couples who admit to having wonderful marriages that have lasted some fifty years or more “What’s the secret?” None of them said, We just lucked out! Just as any business about to open wouldn’t do so without a plan, a sports team wouldn’t think of beginning without having a game plan, two people about to wed begin to plan for their lives together. They look at all the different components that make up married life, too many to mention here, but may include communication, expectation, your dreams for the future, resolving conflict, sex, intimacy,(two different things) financial planning and keeping prayer an important part of your marriage. I dusted off the “Perspective on Marriage” booklet that Curtis and I used in our marriage classes. Some comments we wrote in there made me laugh.. I must share one of Curt’s expectations of me was to cook. I hear some of you laughing! Alright! So this year I will work harder to meet that one. I wasn’t surprised to see that Curtis had met and exceeded all of my expectations. The very first exercise in the booklet was to explore each others personality traits. Something that we still love to share with people. We now recommend “Personality Plus” by Florence Littaure. This book has helped so many couples and families better understand each other.
Here is a quote at the very end of that marriage booklet.
““The couple who commit themselves to the long adventure of total Love are a sign of faith and hope to all the community.”
I was listening to a priest talk of the preparation he went through. First, he earned a degree then learned 3 languages, went to school for 5 ½ more years and moved to another country and marriage preparation many times consists of a few days for a few weeks or only a weekend seminar. More time often goes into planning a vacation than this vocation. I am so pleased to hear our newly engaged ones so enthusiastic about not only attending marriage classes, but also in their continuing effort to improve by reading.
I am also so excited to be associated with so many people who commit to being lifelong learners in this LIFE business. May we all commit ourselves to that long adventure motivated by love as a sign of faith and hope to all the community. Happy New Year. Have a great 2013!
In building trust we should follow Columbo’s approach, after all, he always got his man.
The late Peter Falk played a homicide detective by the name of Lieutenant Frank Columbo. Lieutenant Columbo worked for the Los Angeles Police Department in a 1970’s crime fiction TV series called Columbo. Columbo presented himself as incompetent and naive, absent-minded and unkempt in appearance detective, when in reality he was the smartest guy in the room. It could have been very easy for him to let his ego get in the way and try to prove to the perpetrator how smart he was. However, he stayed focused on the big picture and the perpetrators of the crimes he investigated always knew they were too intelligent to get caught by Columbo and they let their walls down. That’s what sealed their fate. Columbo masterfully unveiled his genius and gradually broke down his overconfident adversary bit by bit by asking innocent questions that later proved to be pivotal in revealing the murderer. He would show admiration for the suspect, even praising the very attribute or talent of which the criminal was most proud of. It was a thing of beauty to watch him in action, usually scratching his head with a confused look on his face all the while.
Columbo had confidence. Do we have confidence or must we always be right, always be teaching, and always be talking? By doing this, others will build walls and we will lose trust and a future relationship. I’m not saying to drive up in an unclean, old, beat up, car and get out wearing a wrinkled raincoat, chewing on a cigar, and acting naive. But I am saying we can be humble, be a good finder, and genuinely care about people. In Dale Carnegie’s book How to Win Friend & Influence People (found on the LIFE site) Part two, chapters 4 through 6 show us that if we must go from being a great listener to talking then talk about their favorite topic “themselves”. If we learn this we will see their walls come down, trust being developed, and a beautiful relationship beginning and in the end you will be loved for focusing on a bigger picture, A CHANGED LIFE.
“There is a loftier ambition than merely stand high in the world. It is to stoop down and lift mankind a little higher.” Henry Van Dyke
Today we find ourselves in a completely different world than that of our parents. We are naturally drawn to succeed, but in many instances these days something seems to get lost while on our way to our destination. There are certain individuals that remind us that the opportunity to serve helps us to progress. It is a rare occasion to see those who have accomplished great success and will reach down to those who seek guidance, direction, and lift them. I have the rare opportunity to work with such people. In business today we hear a lot about investment and return, but with the leadership in LIFE, I hear something different. It’s about helping others better themselves and achieve their dreams. Perhaps that”s why these leaders have become so successful. The bottom line is not measured in dollars and cents but rather in relationships and changed lives.
Recently A friend of mine (Let’s call him John) asked me what was the difference between the LIFE business and other home based businesses. So I decided to answer him using some quotes taken from Tony Dungy’s book “The Mentor Leader”.
I see you’ve been busy!
We at the TEAM have finally been able to get back to what we do best, build communities. As you know it’s been interesting the last few years for us. This was needed for us to get to the point where we can build correctly. As you know our focus has been on developing people. I’ve recently started reading a book from Tony Dungy called The Mentor Leader”. I’ll share a few things from there.
“I’ve heard sociologist Tony Campolo say that the world has switched the price tags, giving value to the valueless while undervaluing the truly important. Accumulating things is highly prized in our society, as are status and fame. On the other hand, the truly important things of life often happen in quiet, private moments—moments of faith, family, and building relationships.”
The TEAM has launched a company called LIFE. We focus on the 8 F’s in people’s lives; Faith, Family, Friends, Finances, Fitness, Fun, Freedom, and Following (Leadership). We understand the reason leadership is the highest paid profession on earth is because of it’s contribution to society. Leadership effects every part of our lives. Here’s some more from the book.
“What can I do to make other people better, to make them all that God created them to be?”
“Leadership is an acquired trait, learned from the interaction with others who know how to lead and lead well.”
“Leaders seek to have a direct, intentional, and positive impact on those they lead. At it’s core, mentoring is about building character into the lives of others, modeling and teaching attitudes and behaviors, and creating a constructive legacy to be passed along to future generations of leaders. I don’t think it’s possible to be an accidental mentor.”
“Building a life of significance, and creating a legacy of real value, means being willing to get your hands dirty.”
“Part of our purpose in life is to build a legacy– a consistent patten into the lives of others.”
Most people are afraid of these types of businesses John, because of the people that have come before us using people to build their business instead of using a business system to build people.
“Are you building relationships, or are you building a tower (of people) to climb to the top?”
John you remember while growing up you had many teachers. But there was one teacher that you remember more that the others. Why is that? Because that teacher cared about you, invested time and energy into you. Welcome to LIFE! Successful leaders make people they lead better players, workers, students, or family members and ultimately, better people. Most ideas today revolve around sitting at home in our underwear building a tower of people through avatars, and being proud of the fact that we’ve never met them. Let me share some more.
“It take time to build mentoring relationships. It takes time to add value to other people’s lives.”
“Mentor leaders tend to lean toward longer- term results. They are involved in the present, but are willing to defer immediate gratification in order to build value and structure into people’s lives, creating culture based on something more than wins and loses.”
“Mentor leaders understand that if we lose sight of people, we lose sight of the very purpose of leadership.”
“Shortsighted leadership focuses primarily on the bottom line. In football, it’s wins and losses and playoff berth’s. In business, it’s quarterly profits, shareholder equity, and sales targets. Not that these things aren’t important—they are. But when they become the primary focus of a business or a team, they inevitably result in a organization that is out of balance. Leaders whose definition of success depends on such a short-term focus—and by short-term I mean temporal, non eternal—will one day wake up to discover they’ve missed out on what is truly important in life, namely meaningful relationships.”
“Sadly, such accomplishment without SIGNIFICANCE will ultimately prove to be meaningless and without lasting value. Mentor leaders insist on more and define success in a much more robust and well rounded way.”
“If your all about winning, it’s not really worth it. I’m after things that last.”
John, one day I will die and meet my maker and He will say “I gave you so much to work with and what did you do with it?” I can say “I built a tower of bodies, and used them for my gain” or I can say “I focused on learning and growing and used a system to build people and got paid handsomely for it, so I can use that money to invest back into other peoples lives.” Because I believe that our privileges should be used not for our pleasures but for our purpose.
Sorry for being so long winded, but as you can see I feel very passionate about the difference we are making.